Brittany Graham

Stop Scrolling, Start Living

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Stop scrolling🙅🏽‍♀️


(Blog thumbnail artwork by Justin Richburg)

The numbers do not define who you are as person. The followers, views, likes, comments, subscribers are no indication of who you are as a person. In fact they don’t mean anything, not a damn thing. Social media is powerful tool and can accomplish a lot if utilized correctly. However at the same time it’s also becoming an addictive drug and in the world we live in today it has become nothing short of trying to appease strangers and friends that are more like distant cousins you hear from via comments on your birthday posts.

So, is it really that important? This whole being popular and liked on social media thing? 🤔

When you really think about it, social media isn’t some happy place where people can escape and be themselves. Instead, It’s like high school all over again, only worse. There are stupid unofficial rules of social media that has millennials everywhere in a frenzy of how, when, and what’s appropriate to post.

🤷🏽I just want to know who made these rules up and when did we all agree to abide by them? It’s all becoming a never ending popularity contest of finding the right combination of lighting, angles, filters, captions, themes, aesthetics, all for the number next to your name. Because being verified and having X-amount of followers has apparently become what’s most important in life these days 🙄.


People today spend less time reading or doing anything significant towards their growth and more time searching for the perfect Instagram caption with just the right amount of wit to look “cool,” or a lyric from a song by some Sound Cloud rapper they’ve never even heard of. Deeper than that, think of the amount of time we waste scrolling.

It’s like we’ve become obsessed with lives of other people, instead of being obsessed with our own. Instead of living your own life, it’s now more of a thing to watch and monitor the lives of other people refreshing their stories and timelines every ten minutes tracking their every move. How many times do you catch yourself bored opening IG to see what so-and-so is doing? Or who commented and liked their last picture? Which then leads you to stalking their commenter’s profile, jumping to conclusions as if you’re Inspector Gadget trying to piece together the extent of their relationship. Oh we have all been this person, don’t lie to yourself 🤦🏽‍♀️.

Beyond being obsessed with someone else’s life (which when you think about it, it’s low key kinda weird, but hey we’re all guilty of it at times and myself included🤦🏽‍♀️), let’s not forget the added pressure “to post a picture or I didn’t happen” rule. Yes again with the stupid rules, like who made that rule up? Sometimes I catch myself so “stressed😫” like, dang I went to this cool place or oh I’m traveling I have to snap this or post this. Because that’s what I’m supposed to do right? Document my life so it appears to be perfect for strangers and distant cousin friends. 

At times it can also make you feel so small. Because as we have now learned likes matter and something is obviously wrong with you if you're not getting them right? This picture below sadly says it all 😒.


We all need to stop worrying about the insignificant things we stress upon ourselves and start pouring our souls, time, and energy into filling our spirits with the things and people that bring us joy. Because at the end of the day, it’s just a number, a meaningless number. The likes, comments, views, and followers is an unnecessary obsession that’s beginning to consume way too much of our time.

It’s time to start appreciating the moments and little things life brings us, before we allow social media to destroy more of our precious time and relationships. Do and post things because you want to and because you like it, without the approval of people that don’t even matter. Be authentic, be yourself, and become obsessed with the life God has blessed with you a little more every single day.

Take a break every now and then, give yourself a digital detox to shift your focus, time and energy to the things and people that matter the most. Shut it down, and turn it off. Have balance and self-control over the scrolls, filters, and likes. Do so and you will come back more refreshed, focused, better, and stronger than ever.

Stop scrolling, start living.



These are just general thoughts about how more and more social media is taking over our lives. I totally understand that everyone is different and not everyone may feel this way. But these are just my own personal thoughts on the topic after seeing how people can become addicted to scrolling. I personally feel like I have been spending WAY TOO MUCH time on social media and not making progress towards my personal goals, for one this blog...stay woke my friends✌️

Song related to post, J.Cole- Love Yourz