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By: Brittany Graham

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Stop Scrolling, Start Living

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Stop scrolling🙅🏽‍♀️

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(Blog thumbnail artwork by Justin Richburg)

The numbers do not define who you are as person. The followers, views, likes, comments, subscribers are no indication of who you are as a person. In fact they don’t mean anything, not a damn thing. Social media is powerful tool and can accomplish a lot if utilized correctly. However at the same time it’s also becoming an addictive drug and in the world we live in today it has become nothing short of trying to appease strangers and friends that are more like distant cousins you hear from via comments on your birthday posts.

So, is it really that important? This whole being popular and liked on social media thing? 🤔

When you really think about it, social media isn’t some happy place where people can escape and be themselves. Instead, It’s like high school all over again, only worse. There are stupid unofficial rules of social media that has millennials everywhere in a frenzy of how, when, and what’s appropriate to post.

🤷🏽I just want to know who made these rules up and when did we all agree to abide by them? It’s all becoming a never ending popularity contest of finding the right combination of lighting, angles, filters, captions, themes, aesthetics, all for the number next to your name. Because being verified and having X-amount of followers has apparently become what’s most important in life these days 🙄.

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People today spend less time reading or doing anything significant towards their growth and more time searching for the perfect Instagram caption with just the right amount of wit to look “cool,” or a lyric from a song by some Sound Cloud rapper they’ve never even heard of. Deeper than that, think of the amount of time we waste scrolling.

It’s like we’ve become obsessed with lives of other people, instead of being obsessed with our own. Instead of living your own life, it’s now more of a thing to watch and monitor the lives of other people refreshing their stories and timelines every ten minutes tracking their every move. How many times do you catch yourself bored opening IG to see what so-and-so is doing? Or who commented and liked their last picture? Which then leads you to stalking their commenter’s profile, jumping to conclusions as if you’re Inspector Gadget trying to piece together the extent of their relationship. Oh we have all been this person, don’t lie to yourself 🤦🏽‍♀️.

Beyond being obsessed with someone else’s life (which when you think about it, it’s low key kinda weird, but hey we’re all guilty of it at times and myself included🤦🏽‍♀️), let’s not forget the added pressure “to post a picture or I didn’t happen” rule. Yes again with the stupid rules, like who made that rule up? Sometimes I catch myself so “stressed😫” like, dang I went to this cool place or oh I’m traveling I have to snap this or post this. Because that’s what I’m supposed to do right? Document my life so it appears to be perfect for strangers and distant cousin friends. 

At times it can also make you feel so small. Because as we have now learned likes matter and something is obviously wrong with you if you're not getting them right? This picture below sadly says it all 😒.

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We all need to stop worrying about the insignificant things we stress upon ourselves and start pouring our souls, time, and energy into filling our spirits with the things and people that bring us joy. Because at the end of the day, it’s just a number, a meaningless number. The likes, comments, views, and followers is an unnecessary obsession that’s beginning to consume way too much of our time.

It’s time to start appreciating the moments and little things life brings us, before we allow social media to destroy more of our precious time and relationships. Do and post things because you want to and because you like it, without the approval of people that don’t even matter. Be authentic, be yourself, and become obsessed with the life God has blessed with you a little more every single day.

Take a break every now and then, give yourself a digital detox to shift your focus, time and energy to the things and people that matter the most. Shut it down, and turn it off. Have balance and self-control over the scrolls, filters, and likes. Do so and you will come back more refreshed, focused, better, and stronger than ever.

Stop scrolling, start living.

 

DISCLAIMER:

These are just general thoughts about how more and more social media is taking over our lives. I totally understand that everyone is different and not everyone may feel this way. But these are just my own personal thoughts on the topic after seeing how people can become addicted to scrolling. I personally feel like I have been spending WAY TOO MUCH time on social media and not making progress towards my personal goals, for one this blog...stay woke my friends✌️

Song related to post, J.Cole- Love Yourz

2017: I Let go of Fear

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This past year in 2017 I let go of fear and held on to faith, in every way possible. I used to live in fear, of what will people say or think about me and the things I love. I can’t remember the exact moment or a specific point in time, but the moment I stopped caring about the opinions and judgment of others amazing things started happening in my life.

 
I LET GO OF FEAR IN 2017. I can't believe this year is coming to an end. so much has happened and changed in 2017. Enjoy a trip down memory lane with me and be sure to subscribe for more adventures in 2018.
 

It should come to no secret to those close to me that being creative and expressing myself through video content is big part of my life. Whether it's about my life or visually telling the story of someone else, it's a feeling I can’t really explain, but I love it. I stopped making excuses for myself and used what had instead of complaining about all of things I didn’t, and just did anyway. It’s a good thing I did too because it's ultimately what led me to my new job and where I’m at today. I didn’t have the nicest cameras or let alone any experience at all. I taught myself and did it because I love it, without any fear of what anyone else would say, think or do. I let go of that fear and in return finding faith and strength in the Lord I saw my life turn around in so many ways.

 

Episode 6 of The Last Shot, a short web series I started this year!

 

This year I lost my job in Denver and for 94 long days held on to nothing but faith that God would bless me with something better. I had to look at being jobless as a vacation, to sleep in, do nothing, go to Cost-Co on a Tuesday morning just because, take naps, make videos, read, binge on Netflix series, hang by the pool and anything else you could think of. I thought to myself I had worked so hard the past few years and that God wanted to give me a 3-month break from the world, and that’s exactly what it is. At times I was weak and cried but I kept my faith, lost the fear and like always He came through.

Best nine Instagram's of 2017 @brittgraham12

Best nine Instagram's of 2017 @brittgraham12

Those 94 days, (with surviving Hurricane Harvey in a close second) was the toughest thing I had to overcome this year. But with that came the great reward of being offered a job in Dallas doing digital media, something I have always wanted to do. This year I learned that no matter how dark it gets, the sun will rise again. The struggles that 2017 brought in my life also came and ended with great success. This year brought so many memories, fun trips, and amazing experiences that outweigh 94 days without a job, and the 74 days of uncertainty in Houston before moving to Dallas.

Although my life is not perfect and nowhere near what I want it to be. Through God, I still have a place and purpose and for that reason alone everyday is blessing with a new opportunity to serve, grow and get better.

I hope is that 2018 will bring growth in the many areas I fell short in 2017 and continued success in those I did well in. The goal is to be the best version of myself, for myself in every way possible. Through faith, fitness, finances, family and friendships.

If there is any doubt or fear in your life, take that leap of faith and let go fear. Give all of your troubles to God and let him do the work for you. I wish for us all so many blessings and wonderful memories to be made in 2018.

More Life, Be Intentional.

Happy New Year Friends

-Brittany

2017 top songs and artists on Spotify

2017 top songs and artists on Spotify

 

 

My Best Life

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Big 12 MBB Media Day

Big 12 MBB Media Day

The past two months have been nothing short of exciting, and I’m still trying to figure out just exactly how I got here🤷🏽. By here I mean living my dream and fulfilling the vision God placed my heart many years ago. It’s been almost two months since I started this new chapter and new adventure as a Digital Media Correspondent for the best conference (and also my favorite😉), The Big 12. Since then, a lot of you have been asking more about job, life, what exactly I do, and how the transition has been changing my career.

Life😎

Let me first start off by saying that I am truly blessed🙏🏽 to be living my best life right now. I mean it when I say that life is treating me well😌. I’m living in the city I have wanted to live in for so many years now with my amazing parents that I get to see and spend time with each and everyday. When I first started this whole adult thing I was living in Rome, GA coaching at Berry College. I hardly ever got to see my family and by hardly I mean once a year for 4-7 days during Christmas break. So you can see why I appreciate seeing their faces every morning to start my day.

Work🎥

As far as work goes, it’s been such an amazing learning experience so far. I feel like everyday I’m growing and learning something new. I’m constantly challenged, creating, thinking and making content to cover all of our Big 12 sports teams. I'm learning new editing techniques, all about cameras, lighting, back end of websites, social media strategies, and so many other cool important things.  

This time last year I was following around THE Jacqlyn Poss filming, editing, producing my own short web series and now here I am a year later making in day life media day videos with Devonte’ Graham and Trae Young, two of the best players in the Big 12. It’s so surreal…

 
 
 
 
XC Championship!!!

XC Championship!!!

I just wrapped up my first season covering cross country and it was an absolute blast. Coming from a basketball background I of course new nothing about XC, but that quickly changed as the season progressed as checking the polls and rankings became a part of my weekly routine.

After working the XC Championship and attending my first ever meet, I must say it way more exciting than you would ever think. These athletes are so skilled and discipline to take care of their bodies and run so many miles at such a fast pace. It was just crazy to see it live in person, and I highly suggest that every sports fan should definitely check out a XC meet, it was awesome.

It's also been a very new and weird experience for me being in front of a camera. I can't say I enjoy it just yet, but it's been good for me learning to get out of my comfort zone. It takes me a very long time to get my words right and I feel SO uncomfortable seeing, watching, and hearing myself on videos, can you tell I don't like it?🙅🏽🙈 But again, I'm growing and getting better each time I film and that's all I can ask for💙

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I also spent the past month doing on campus visits with Big 12 women’s basketball teams (Baylor, TCU, Texas Tech, Iowa St. & Kansas St) interviewing coaches and student-athletes about the upcoming season. The moment it all sunk it for me in terms of how far I have come was interviewing my former coach at Texas Tech(Coach White, she will always be Coach White even though she is now marrieS LOL). However, many years ago now I was once a sophomore college basketball player at UMKC. A soft, timid, scared, lazy sophomore college basketball player at UMKC that lost her scholarship. At the time I was devastated but all the years later being told off was the best possible thing that could have ever happened to me. Besides, looking back now I would have got rid of me too #NOTlying...

With Coach White❤️️

With Coach White❤️️

For so many years I held so much anger in my heart towards my old coach for not renewing my scholarship and not believing in me as a player. I was so afraid to even think of seeing her face to face as the years passed, and now here I am sitting in front of her asking the questions for an interview. It was the coolest thing ever. I’ve grown, changed, and matured so much and a major reason why will always be my experience at UMKC. Had it not been for those moments, I would have never had the opportunity to years later be interviewing my old coach who I have nothing but love, support, and respect for. 

As you can see, life has been keeping me busy, I’ve been loving every minute of it and I don’t plan on slowing down anytime soon.

This is just the beginning, I promise to keep you updated.

-Brittany

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74 Days in Houston

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🤷🏽🤗Life Lately...

🤷🏽🤗Life Lately...

74 Days. That’s how long I’ve been living in Houston, and tomorrow starts yet another chapter of my life as I will embark on a new journey in Dallas. I know what you're thinking, you just got to Houston, you just moved into your new apartment, so what happened? I wish I could give you the perfect answer you want to hear but I can't. The only thing I can say is God🙌🏽

I didn't get fired, there wasn't a huge falling out, nothing like that all. God has just blessed me with an amazing new opportunity. Before I knew anything about the job opening UH, I applied for another job towards the end of April beginning of May. I moved on with my life, accepted the position at UH, and never heard back until a couple of weeks ago. Initially, all I could do is question God, like dude why now😫? I just got settled with my life in Houston...so what could He possibly be trying to tell me? I brushed it off, didn't think anything else of it because I knew I wouldn't get the job. The timing was completely off and it just didn't make sense.

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When I got the call that I was hired I was in shock. I couldn't believe it and it didn't seem real, I thought it was all a big joke. At that point, I couldn't even be excited or enjoy it, as I could only make excuses of why this wasn't going to work. I just signed a lease, the cost to move (AGAIN!!!), disappointing everyone at UH, and list went on and on. In my head I said NO. There is absolutely NO way this is going to work out, things like this just don't happen to me.

When I finally had the time to sit down and think about what had just happened to me, all I could do was thank God. Back in April this was the job I wanted and was so determined to get, and now here I am. My apartment complex let me out of my lease, my moving expenses were taken care, and everything slowly unforced started taking care of itself, GOD🙌🏽

I don't think it's hit me yet that a lot of my dreams are about to come true. 2013-2016 were three very tough years of my life. Through all of the moving, packing, and unpacking(I'm getting pretty good at that whole thing) I found my old bible with this note card in it. it was the Spring of 2014 and my first year coaching at Berry, I remember writing this down and praying about every single day. Visualizing that one day it might just happen. Little did I know that three years later God would be guiding me closer to home being in Houston, and eventually to Dallas in the same city that my parents live in. For so long I had the perfect road map of exactly how my life was going to go. I can't tell you exactly when, but the moment I started following God's plans and purpose for my life everything peacefully started to fall into place🙏🏽

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Living in Houston. From day 1 it never felt like home and a place I saw myself growing and even from the beginning the vibes weren't the greatest. I kept telling myself God led me here for a reason and this is where I'm supposed to be, so despite the vibes I stayed positive throughout it all. More than anything in my heart for awhile now, I felt I had out grown being in a basketball operations role. I felt restricted from be able to be creative full-time like I was working in a box. I'm at my best when I am telling stories, with a camera, making videos, and creating really cool content. Which by the way is exactly what my new job entails, and more...🤗📷✨

 
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It was very hard to tell my co-workers at UH that I would be leaving less than week into the school year, but it would've been even harder not to follow my the dream and the vision God has placed in my heart❤️️. When I was making my final decision on what to do, Alex Kiernan (Alex is a senior at Berry and I coached her as a freshman) popped in my head and all I could think was...I can't let her down. If I don't take this job, she is going to kill me. Alex, Jac, Rosie, and so many other people that not only look up to me, but support me and my dreams. It was a no brainier at that point, and although it seemed like terrible timing. God's timing is the only timing.

I've never felt so many emotions at all once. Happy, excited, nervous, scared and not knowing what to expect. I do know however that whatever happens in this next chapter, I am ready because God has groomed and prepared me for everything I am about to face in this new career and he will be with me every step of the way. I'm not sure why or if I'll ever know why God gave me a brief 74 day stop in Houston before directing me to Dallas. At this point, I honestly don't even care I just know that it was all a part of his plan💜

🤔My advice? ALWAYS following your dreams and trust God's timing with your life. Stop making excuses for yourself and just take the risk before you're left wondering, dang what if? You can't put a price tag on your happiness and dreams, so just do it. In March I lost my job at DU and patiently waited 94 days for my opportunity at UH, and 74 days after that, now I am off to Dallas!!!

I wouldn't be a woman of my words to DREAM.LIVE.BALL if I didn't start this new career.

So what exactly will I be doing, where and with who? Stay tuned...

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