Brittany Graham

I'm Trying to Get IT.

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Finally... a video that explains and someone that gets it. I've been describing myself as weird for years and could never fully put into words why. No mater what it is you're grinding for, basketball, another sport, your professional career,  this a video posted on Jimmy Butler's Insta' made by Phil.DoitAll anyone can relate to. (Please excuse me for the language in advanced, voice of Tyrese Gibson)

"It's time to stay focused. It's time to decide fuck clubs, fuck partying, fuck trying to fit in, and socialize, rubbing elbows with everybody so people can stop calling you weird. Why are you so anti social? Because I'm trying to get it. Why are you staying on the basketball court so much? Because I'm trying to get it. Why are you out there practicing in the hot sun when ain't nobody else out there? Because I'm trying to get it. These clubs, these parties, all this shit ain't going nowhere. The more weird you are, is a reflection of how committed you are to focusing on your shit, molding and shaping and developing your ideas and your craft so when it's time for you to make your rounds you gon' fly. The life that I live, I deserve this life because I work my ass off to get it."

Audience of One

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If you’re anything like me you’re constantly being overlooked in life. Feeling like no matter what you do, how positive you stay or how hard you work, you’re never good enough. I feel like my entire life in certain aspects of my life I just wasn’t good enough, or “just not what we’re looking for.”  As it relates to basketball, I was too small, not strong enough, too slow, not versatile...whatever it seemed to be, I wasn't enough! But what about being skilled, a good passer, a damn good three-point shooter, good student, and an even better person? Do those qualities count for anything? Because at the time, I felt like they didn’t matter and I couldn’t do anything right and was never good enough.

When it comes to adulting it then became, you don’t have enough experience, you’re not skilled enough in this area, we’re looking to go in different direction, but we will stay connected and keep in touch in case something comes open in the future. You know that whole thing.

It feels like sometimes no matter how hard you work, or how many times you focus on doing things the right way it still seems as if you don't get what you deserve. It all becomes even harder when you start to seeing the people around you move up, get the promotion, or an awesome new job and you're just stuck because you're always overlooked and under appreciated. 

Whenever I start to feel like this instead of feeling bitter or sorry for myself, I use these feelings to drive me even harder to prove the naysayers wrong.

However even still, it should be known that you are living for an audience of One...GOD.

It's easy to get wrapped up into who likes us, getting attention and the approval of our peers. But regardless of whether people notice you or your talents, God never ignores us. He wants us to do our best for Him at all times and he will bless us with what we need when the time is right.

Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ. 
— Colossians 3:23-24 NLT

It might feel like you are alone. Like nobody ever notices all of the positive good things you bring to table, how hard you are working, or the sacrifices you are making to succeed. But God does, as He see's it all. "For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him" 2 Chronicles 16:9. When times get difficult just remember that the only approval you need is from the One above. Let those against you continue to sleep on you, work hard in silence let success be the noise. If you need some more good thoughts to pick you up on being overlooked check out this Joel Osteen Podcast below and my "Fake Love" playlist on Spotify, both below.

-Brittany

Podcast Link: 8/5/17 Joel Osteen Podcast-- Stay Committed

 

And if you're really in your feelings, listen to this playlist and you will feel unstoppable :) 

Remember Why

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Things in life almost never go like we planned. With that being said, it's always important to remember why you started. Sometimes it's easy to lose focus and sight of your goals in the hustle and bustle of the everyday life work grind. We all at times get these amazing ideas and set high standards but lose the intensity to reach them when the path to get there becomes difficult. Other times, we get complacent or lackadaisical and progress becomes slower and slower.

SO, like I said, always...remember why you started. When you feel yourself getting off track, losing focused, or even becoming lazy. Get back to the mindset you had when you started, stay focused and remember each and everyday why you're doing what you do. It's for a reason, a purpose, the pain and struggle to get there is always worth it when you're focused on your why.

 

 

18 Years & Counting

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Last weekend I had the pleasure of attending one my best friends and longest friends wedding. Friday, July 21, 2017 in Destin Florida as tears rolled down my cheeks😭 I watched Bethany Joy marry the man of her dreams. I wouldn’t consider myself much a crier, but I couldn’t help but to find myself getting emotional watching someone you have known for over 18 years look so beautiful walking down the isle to eventually say, I do!👰🏼 💕💕💕

 
With the people who have loved me, supported me, and known me longest <3

With the people who have loved me, supported me, and known me longest <3

 

Probably because most of our memories together were during the super awkward middle school and early high school stages of our lives lol, see for your self...🤣

 
Pretty much sums up the "awk" years lol

Pretty much sums up the "awk" years lol

 
Senior Day at GSU, 2010

Senior Day at GSU, 2010

The older I get, the more I value friendship and loyalty which is exactly what Bethany as been to me ever since 7th grade. I moved around a lot when I was younger, before there was Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram making it nearly impossible to stay in touch with old friends. But despite the lack of then technology, we always managed to stay close. After moving away in 10th grade for my 18th birthday, I took a trip back to Washington to spend the weekend with Bethany and see the rest of my old Pullman friends. The same year, Bethany flew out to Colorado for a weekend in the winter to see me play at my new school in Colorado (😎🏀It should also be noted that game I had a triple-double…18 points, 12 rebounds, and 10 steals). A few years later Bethany came to Atlanta for my senior day game at Georgia State. (😩This game should be noted I went 0-2 from the field in 23 minutes and played like trash).  

My best friends &lt;3

My best friends <3

Because I moved so much it was not only hard to make friends, but I found it even harder to keep friends. Looking back now I can see how I was a bad friend and never really opened myself up to people in fear of another move. It was a tough cycle for me to break. But through it all, middle school, drivers ed, braces, overalls, track meets, basketball games, college, apartment searches, real jobs, puppies (lol Bentley and harper🐶) and everything else in between. No matter where life has taken me, Bethany has always been my friend and a loyal one at that.

There were times and stages in our lives we went weeks, months even without talking. But when we did reconnect it was like nothing had ever changed and we picked up right where we left off…annoying teachers at Pullman High School since 2001🤙🏽

Last April I reunited with “Beth,” when I came to visit her in Houston for a long weekend. While I was there I was able to witness my BFF in her natural habitat of teaching 7th grade Language Arts (read the full blog post here: http://www.dreamliveball.com/blog/2016/04/10/sharing-my-best-friend). It was a wonderful weekend reuniting with her and it made me realize just how much I missed having a friend like Bethany in my everyday life.

 
Was she wearing cloud PJ's?

Was she wearing cloud PJ's?

 
 
Our last sleepover in 10th grade before I moved :(

Our last sleepover in 10th grade before I moved :(

 
#TBT 7th grade Bethany obessed with Allen Iverson

#TBT 7th grade Bethany obessed with Allen Iverson

So fast forward to present day, little did I know that the Lord would bring us together again living in the same city after 18 years apart. I will forever be grateful for the many differences in our personalities and backgrounds. But even more thankful for the strength in the similarities of our beliefs that hold us together and keep us close.

Thank you BJB, now BJWil for making me a better person and always being there for me. I love you and wish you, Frank & Bentley a happy new life together.

 

 

7/21/17 Such a beatuiful bride &lt;3

7/21/17 Such a beatuiful bride <3